I never make New Years Resolutions or goals or promises.
The primary reason is unattainability–most goals or set too low or too high. If you set a goal too low and achieve it, could you have done more or better if you’d set it higher? Or not set one at all? Essentially, you have an excuse to be lazy because subconsciously you know you’ll meet your resolution and won’t push yourself.
If you set a goal too high, you’ll feel like a failure if you don’t achieve it.
Some goals are simply not attainable, like, “I will sell a book/find an agent this year.” Selling a book is almost completely out of the author’s hands. You can write the book, vow to send out 100 queries to agents, but ultimately you have no control over whether someone offers you a contract or not.
I have enough stress in my life that I don’t need to heap on more worry in the form of a list of goals or a New Years Resolution. I know me, and I’ll glance at that list and either 1) know I’ll be able to do it, but procrastinate; or 2) know the goals are virtually impossible and stress over them.
My good friend Roxanne St. Claire loves setting goals. She calls herself a “goal junkie” and if you, too, love goals, read Rocki’s article from last year at Murder She Writes. And she offers great advice on how and why to set goals. For example, her first point:
A goal is not a dream. It is attainable solely by your own hands and it is in your control. Getting an editor to buy your manuscript or readers to buy your book aren’t goals, no matter how much they feel like they are. Submitting your manuscript to a specific number of editors or finishing back to back books in your fantastic series are goals.
But I still can’t do it. I even have problems writing a to-do list for a single day. People tell me that when they cross things off their to-do list that they feel productive or happy. Not me. If I had on a list, “Write ten pages today” and I wrote ten pages and crossed it off, I’d think, “Would I have written more if I’d listed more on my to-do list?” I can’t even plot out a scene let alone a whole book–and maybe lists make me think I’m plotting out my life. It gives me the willies just to think about it.
Some people thrive on lists and goals. More power to them. I’m not one. They drive me batty.
What about you? Like or hate lists? Like or hate to make New Years Resolutions?
AND NOW FOR SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT . . .
Saw HOLMES last weekend. FABULOUS movie. I loved it. Well worth the $10 (or, for me, $30.75 because of my two teenagers, plus $19.50 for popcorn and drinks . . . )
Fandango sent me a list of their Top 10 2010 most anticipated movies:
1. Ironman II.
Saw the trailer. It looks a little darker than the first (which was pretty dark) but I’ll probably see it. My son wants to because he loved the first one. He’ll be 9 when it comes out. I really like Robert Downey, Jr. HOLMES solidified him as one of my favorites.
I keep going back and forth on this one. I love Johnny Depp. Hated the new Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. Like Burton, but don’t know if I can put aside watching the original Alice and adapt to the non-cartoon version.
3. Tron: Legacy
When the original Tron came out, I loved it. But that was 1982 and I was 13. I’m sure with the computer graphics of today and the special effects, it will be fantastic on screen, but sometimes movies like this forsake the story for the effects. It’s on my list to see.
Um, unless someone I know and trust gives it a major must-see thumbs up, nope.
5. Twilight: Eclipse
No. But my daughter will probably see it twice.
Saw the preview at HOLMES. Will most likely see.
7. Robin Hood
Russell Crowe seems well cast and I loved him in Gladiator. Will probably see.
8. Toy Story 3
Andy goes to college! He leaves Buzz, Woody and the rest of the gang in a day care center. Tops my list of must-see movies. I can hardly wait! I might even bring the kids . . .
A-list actors but . . . not sure about this one. Again, will wait for review from friends.
10. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part I
I haven’t seen the others, but my two old kids have. Doubt I’ll go.
What about you? Looking forward to any of these?
BIG NEWS: Launched new website over the weekend. Love it. Still tweaking and adding content.
Ballantine created a widget for my new book in two sizes. I’ve never had one before. It’s kinda cool.