In his excellent book ON WRITING, Stephen King gives the best advice for a long-writing career: Read a lot, write a lot, and stay married. As a recently enaged young man, my mind has been on that last partlately.
I’m 30, almost 31 and I think one of the reasons I’ve put off marriage this long is because I’ve known I wanted to be a writer and I knew it was going to take a special kind of person to be married to a writer. I also didn’t want to be tied down and prevented from doing all of the things, going all of the places, and learning all of the lessons needed for a vital writing career.
But now that I’ve had all of those experiences and I’m settling into a semi-responsible life I’ve been looking for that someone special and it’s been an interesting hunt. It took me quite a while to realize the best mate for me as a writer is NOT another writer or artist. I like to be the artsy fartsy one, the tortured one, the irresponsible and dreamy one.
So finally I found my perfect match in a banker named Becky Kilgore who owns a grand total of maybe 10 books. She doesn’t read much, but she reads my stuff and asks the kind of great common sense questions that only non-readers are capable of noticing. She has no tolerance for literary flair without purpose and is ruthless in her need to be entertained. That’s great for me.
Now, to those of you out there with spouses and significant others,here’s a chance to give advice and shout-outs to your own best partner. What balance of reader/non-reader or writer/non-writer works
for you. Any advice for my bride-to-be on being married to a writer? And also, tell us about some of the worst writer’s spouses you’ve heard of. We want dish people.