My wife is nine months pregnant, due to give birth any day now. While we have the usual doubts about parenting, we’re excited and happy for this new chapter in our life.
I have only one real fear. What will happen to my writing?
As it is, my time is spread thin. Between the day job, my martial arts studies, quality time with the wife, and the blog, my fiction sometimes gets pushed to the side. And now, there’s going to be a little one in my life-a beautiful, crying, crapping, burping little one. Just one more demand on my time.
I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t concerned. After all, writing doesn’t pay the bills right now. Writing isn’t going to change a diaper. Writing isn’t going to hug my wife.
So where does writing fit in the grand scheme of things? How important is it?
I remember a 60 Minutes interview with a famous playwright whose name now escapes me. When asked about the balancing act between his family and his work, the playwright responded, "Art comes first… Always."
While I don’t agree, I understand the sentiment. To give up on writing, would be giving up on a dream. Losing hold of it would mean losing a piece of myself. That’s a short road to bitterness.
How good a husband will I be if I’m unhappy? How good a father?
Putting writing aside simply isn’t an option. In fact, I feel more and more that I must make it a priority. The question becomes, where do I find the time?
So I’m reaching out to you once again murder fans. To the writers out there, especially those with day jobs, how do you keep the balance? How do you keep writing a priority when life gets in the way?
Happy Easter and enjoy the ham.